There is a bag of worms if ever I heard one Frank.
Colour is the most difficult perception to tie down and it is a perception as there is no guarantee that each of us sees the same live, let alone after it has been stuffed into a gamut.
Questions to elucidate the problem first
When you say that the reds glow- do you mean on your screen or when you print them?
Do you print your own or have them printed outside.
What colour gamut are you using in camera?
Have you calibrated your monitor?
Have you read all the colour gamut stuff in Cambridgeiicolor, luminous landscape etc ?
I will PM you my e-mail but max to go through the gateway is 8 meg- you may have to crop the Raw image in LR to get an 8 Meg portion- do not do any other conversion...john